Therapists go through transitions, too. A few weeks ago, I found out my office building was being sold, and I had a short period of time to change my location. While I had a plan for a future expansion and a timeframe, this was not it. Additionally, sudden disruption or elimination of my home or work space triggers difficult feelings for me personally, due to a past house fire trauma, and I felt not only logistically disrupted but personally rocked as well. I was anxious, scattered, frustrated, triggered, and in what felt like a disempowered position.
I am lucky. I have tools to identify and manage my anxiety, I have supportive family, friends, and colleagues who helped, and I was able to find a new space for my business that, while not perfect, is great in many ways, and I am genuinely excited to be in a new space with possibility for new and different growth opportunities.
Why do I share this? Because therapists are human. Sometimes we get sent spinning from silly things like a move. Sometimes we get overwhelmed by what theoretically are normal, human, adult tasks. We have our own crap, our own weaknesses, and our own bad days. The simplest unexpected change can bring up feelings of being untethered, out of control, unsafe, disempowered, and straight anxious.
What knocks me off my game might not be the same as what gets to you, but we all have our things. Transitions of all kinds can make us feel vulnerable, bring up past losses or feelings of grief, or just mess with our sense of who we are for a bit. Make a mental post-it note for the next time you might be going through a transition, whether that's a promotion, a new baby, a move, or a graduation: it may rock you a little bit, so have some compassion for yourself. The extra sensitivity, unexpected emotions, or extra anxiety will subside, but be kind to yourself in the meantime. Do your best. We are all human and prone to unexpected difficulties, and transition can easily put us in that space, so you are not alone. It's one of many things you probably have in common with your therapist.